Deliberate joy, daily from 6 p.m. to 10 p.m.

The Universe gave me a couple little nudges yesterday to pay attention to how I am spending my time. I always appreciate those reminders to stay on track with my intentions!

During my commute to work, I was listening to a public radio segment regarding habitual behaviors. The point was that many of us are on autopilot when we make choices about our finances and diet, for instance. I believe the same is often true about our leisure time choices – we drive home from work, prepare or pick up a “same old” dinner, turn on the TV or computer and a few hours later, head for bed.

The second reminder came from my LinkedIn news feed. An article by Arianna Huffington, president and editor-in-chief at The Huffington Post Media Group, wrote about stress and how the holidays leave a lot of people feeling drained and stressed out. However, she goes on to say that “The philosophy behind Less Stress, More Living is based on two truths: that we all have within us a centered place of harmony and balance, and that we all veer away from that place again and again. . . If we understand these two truths and prioritize reducing the destructive effects of stress in our lives, 2013 can be the year we reconnect with our own creativity, wisdom, and joy.”

68 awake hours each week to do exactly as we chose! 

A comment from one of Arianna’s readers noted that an average of 50 out of 168 hours per week are spent working and commuting to work. (That’s conservative, based on my experience and observations!) Another 50 hours or so each week are spent sleeping. Assuming a standard Monday – Friday work schedule, that leaves about 6.5 waking hours per weekday and 17 hours on Saturday and Sunday to do anything we want to do.

Schedule quality fun time with important people

Schedule quality fun time with important people

Now those of you who have kids at home are in a completely different place than an empty-nester like me! You have a lot more to squeeze into those awake hours. Hence, it’s even more important to schedule your fun time — sometime including kids,  and some time without them.

All that said, the point is that many of us have finite hours to play and do the things we SAY are a priority, such as time with family and friends, actively pursuing hobbies, working out or even completing important tasks and errands. In the past, I’ve often scheduled those things on my calendar to make sure I do them. Live is too short to let the days slip by in a blur on autopilot! And what a great day to recommit to spending my time in enriching activities – the day that turned out to not be the end of the world after all!

I’m also going to continue focusing on harmony, possibilities and gratitude, so I’ll attract more blessings into my life. Focusing on stress and feeling like there is never enough time, money and resources will ensure there won’t be.

I’d love to hear your comments about:

  • Do you have any tips for how you ensure using your “free” time deliberately, rather than habitually?
  • What are some examples of how you’ve purposefully deflected stress and attracted blessings?
  • What are some of the things you are going to schedule to ensure you spend time the way you really want to in the coming week?

Kick the stress habit this holiday season and give yourself the gift of time for fun!

Love, Tomboy Tam

2 thoughts on “Deliberate joy, daily from 6 p.m. to 10 p.m.

  1. Tam, what a timely and impactful post! Yesterday afternoon, I decided to take a break from work at 3:30 to go outside and build a snow fort with Rhiannon. At least three times, she said to me “Mom, thank you so much for taking time to do this with me.” Her sweet comment left me feeling very happy that I was spending time with her and also sad because I don’t deliberately spend as much time with her as she (and I) would like. Coming off the high from our afternoon outside, she asked me to lay in bed and snuggle with her for a while last night. At first, I said “No, I need to do some work.”. Then, I thought…heck with the work. I’m going to snuggle. And, I did. And, it was amazing. This week, I am committing to deliberately doing more of what I did yesterday. ❤

    • What a heart warming story, Theresa. Thanks so much for sharing it! When Rhiannon is grown up and you reflect on all the beautiful moments with her, you’ll never regret the hours you ditched work to spend the time with her. And knowing you, I’m ready to bet that your employer is never going to begrudge you that time with her because you give so much to them too. Nice job!!! 🙂

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