I attended a wedding this weekend, and have not been able to get the theme of relationships out of my head since the ceremony, so I guess I have to write about it.
My reluctance stems from my self-professed status of “student” when it comes to relationships. Fewer than 10 years ago, I embarked on a deliberate journey of personal growth that included reading, workshops, conversations and prayer, trying to understand my challenges, successes and expectations regarding relationships – romantic, platonic and familial. Who am I to blog with The World about relationships?!
Then I realized that I expect to be a lifetime student of all my key topics for this blog: Relationships, personal growth, health & wellness, spirituality, career and lifestyle. So unless I want to quit after one week of blogging, I better start the dialogue with The World on the topic of relationships, since that is what’s on my mind. So here goes . . .
The key point of the sermon, “two are better than one,” was introduced in the scripture readings. My reaction to the sermon was to qualify the point with thoughts that included words like “if,” “unless,” and “when.”
Once the seed “relationships” was planted in my brain, I tended it until it sprouted into a gardening metaphor for my evolving philosophies regarding relationships with people I care about. (Intentional corny pun – meant to make you chuckle, groan or pay attention!)
I’ll follow up with a plain English version of this metaphor later this week, after I hear your feedback on what the following bullet points mean to you, as a metaphor for relationship building:
- I will start by honestly assessing my skills, time and commitment to having a garden. If I need some remedial preparation for gardening – such as reading how-to books, consulting with other gardeners, plowing under weeds, and creating a fertile environment for growth – I will do so before planting any seeds.
- My vision for a garden will be based on the reality of the environment in which I will plant my seeds. I won’t expect bamboo to grow in the desert, and I won’t try to turn the desert into a rainforest. I will appreciate the beauty of a desert garden, if that is where I intend to plant.
- A successful garden is not necessarily the result of hard labor. I will combine research and planning with consistent watering, weeding, fertilizing and pest control to result in the harvest of abundance I envision.
- I will pull small weeds frequently because it is a lot easier, takes less time and hurts less than extracting large ones that have deep roots, sharp stickers and many offspring.
- I will reap what I sow. I won’t expect to harvest sweet corn if I plant garlic.
Two may indeed be better than one – what do you think? I’m looking forward to hearing your thoughts.
Love, Tomboy Tam